✍🏻 Imaam Ibn ʿUthaymīn (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
- Sometimes, when disciplining his children in anger, a person makes supplications of evil instead of good. Instead of saying: “May Allah guide you, may Allah rectify you, may Allah open your chest to the truth” —
He says: “May Allah destroy you, may Allah do such and such to you.”
- Some scholars explained the saying of Allah Almighty:
{And man supplicates for evil as he supplicates for good, and man is ever hasty} [Surah al-Isrāʾ 17:11]
as referring to this — that people, in haste and impatience, supplicate for evil in a situation where it would be more fitting to supplicate for good. And no human being has been given a gift better and broader than patience. - So discipline yourself, restrain it, and accustom your tongue that when your children or family anger you, you supplicate good for them. Some people say: “May Allah protect us from your evil.” Is this permissible or not?
- We say: “We seek refuge in Allah from the evils of ourselves and from the bad consequences of our deeds.” So, if someone says to his child: “May Allah protect us from your evil, you anger me so often,” there is nothing wrong with that.
But as for saying: “May Allah take you, may Allah destroy you, may Allah blacken your face, may Allah never give you success in this world or the Hereafter” — this is forbidden.
- Be patient, train your soul, and supplicate good for your family.
[Liqaʾ al-Bāb al-Maftūḥ (187/18)]